BY MOMWISE SARAH OKORAFOR

Write a letter to your children, and give it to them when they are 13 years old – my personal suggestion. You can even write this letter when they are born. I personally wrote my letters to my sons when they were babies. You can then present them with the letter during milestone events.

I remember when I was pregnant with my first child, and I was told that I was having a boy… I was very excited! I talked to him every day, sang to him, and read out loud to him. I wrote a letter to him, pouring out my heart and sharing the vision that I had for his life. I did the same with my second son.

In this day and age of technology, handwritten letters are rare. I remember before my Mom died, she wrote me several letters, which I still keep as a memory of her. It was a sign of her love for me.

If you take the time to write down your thoughts, your children will take them seriously and will have something to hold unto and read over and over again. Just like the letters my Mom wrote to me, I treasure and have them in a special memory box.

You don’t have to be a writer to share your thoughts, feel free to borrow ideas from others, the bible and other sources to guide you.

When writing these letters, remember that they are important documents for your children to read as a reminder of your love for them.  Don’t let anything keep you from writing your love letter to them. Remember, it doesn’t have to be perfect. Go to a quiet place and start writing. It could be in bullet points, or the first thing that comes to your mind concerning your children.

For moms with multiple children, remember that each child is different. Do not make it generic; personalize each letter to each child.  It will make it more personal for that child.

So, what should you include in your love/vision letter to your children?

  1. A clear statement of your love. It doesn’t have to be poetic or rhythmic, say how you feel about them. The key thing is that your children will walk away knowing that you love them. Pouring out your heart to them sincerely, will be a reminder of your love for them. But you must say it very clearly, one way or another. Teenagers today report that what they crave more than anything else in the world is to be loved.
  2. A prayer for them. A simple prayer goes a long way.
  3. Make sure you put a date on the letter.

You can write letters to them for every milestone. For example, a letter when he or she becomes a teenager (13th birthday); another on their 21st birthday. You can also write a letter when they go to college; when they get married and when they have children. These letters will serve as your love statement to them, so that even when we are gone, they have something to hold onto and cherish.

Do you need help with writing your first letter to your children? If so, feel free to reach out to us via the MomWise email (momwise@jesuswomen.org) or send us a message via the “Contact Us’ page