By MomWise Olatunde Onabajo
I looked in the mirror and saw a different woman—totally different from what I saw seven years ago when I looked in a similar mirror. At first, I struggled to fight back the tears but the more I stared back at my reflection, the more the tears flowed.
Seven years ago, my clothes fitted differently, my high cheekbones rose prominently, my arms didn’t flab, my face was spotless, no wrinkles, my belly was firm even without six-packs and there definitely were no stretched marks! The number on the scale also read significantly less than what it reads today.
But in that same span of years, I got married, carried two pregnancies, completed my master’s degree, worked a full time, parenting two humans and doing a thousand more things than I was doing seven years ago. I must say… my body has gone through so much!
Can I be honest?
I thank God for giving me these blessings (marriage, children and other blessings) but there are days I look in the mirror and ask… “why do I feel stuck inside this body suit?” “Why does my body feel different?” “Why can’t I lose this excess weight like I could when I was in college or before having children?” And the most common one, “when will I feel ________ (fill in the blank) again?”
I wondered if I was the only Mom feeling this way. So I did some research and found a host of Moms who felt the same way.
“My life feels like it is over” said a mom of three children.
“I want my youth back”, another Mom said.
Soon, it became apparent that many Moms share this overwhelming feeling of loss of autonomy.
That’s when I turned to the Bible—because you know, it is the only book that has the answers to every question you’ll ever need to ask in this lifetime!
I turned to the Bible and began to read encouraging passages such as:
Matthew 11: 28-30: “Come unto me, all you (Moms) who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest…”
Hebrews 6:10: “God is not unjust; He will not forget your work (marriage, raising children, career, ministries) and the love you have shown Him as you have helped His people and continue to help them.”
Isaiah 40:31: “But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”
These verses are like chilled water on a hot summer afternoon! Refreshing and satisfying to the soul! These verses have helped me recognize that although my body may look and feel different physically, God still loves me, He still cares deeply for and about me. I am the apple of His eyes, the very thought that fills His heart!
I will keep looking in the mirror even when the wrinkles appear, and the dark circles grow darker; even if the arms flab more and the stretch marks stretch further, one thing is for sure: God loves me deeply regardless of these imperfections, and that is all that truly matters!