By MomWise Olatunde Onabajo
As a Mom of (insert the number of children you have), life can seem like an endless cycle of repetitions, mostly evolving around those beautiful, blessed and busy gifts called children running around your home, taking over your life. This is especially true for Moms of children between the ages of…when they pop out in the delivery room till about seven years old (or even older?), there is a sense of total dependence on us Moms, right?
Lately, it’s nearly impossible to apply my makeup without four extra eyes looking intently at me in the mirror, patiently waiting their turn to apply makeup—ah! Then there are days I just want to sit on the white porcelain ‘throne’ without being asked a thousand questions in the thirty seconds it’s taking to just go! Can’t a Mom just be left alone? The other day, after driving like a blessed and wonderful driver on 495(stop judging me), I picked up my older daughter from school and once she settled into her car seat, two questions into inquiring about her day, my five-year-old responds “mom you’re asking too many questions.” Ah! I was just trying to be engaging…
Children are amazing and one of the best gifts God has given us. However, their needs can take over the rest of the time we have after working 8 hours, sleeping another 4-8hours and time with our spouse. The question is what time is left for my “Me-Time”?
Me-Time is that time when it’s just you, no distractions from humans and electronics, a time to reflect on your dreams and aspirations, a time to spend with your Maker, a time to just be YOU. Me-Time can seem more like a fantasy than reality but fret not Moms, Me-Time is very possible, doable and essential.
Possible because as little as 5 minutes to disconnect from everything can make a difference.
Doable because we must decide and take the steps to achieve Me-Time (it could be simply locking yourself in your closet, taking a walk around your neighborhood, window-shopping, journaling, going to the spa, reading a book, etc).
Essential because Moms are (in most cases) the engine powering a household and if the engine breaks down, the car won’t move.
Jesus is our perfect example in Mark 1:35, Luke 5:16. Bible records that “Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.”
We too can find that solitary place, our Me-Time to pray, listen to God, dream again and replenish our strength.
I love my children and enjoy spending time with them but more importantly, spending alone time with my Maker to renew strength for the journey of life that’s way beyond the scope of being a Mom. Ultimately, I am a Child of God and must be equipped to do the work He purposed when He created me.
You are blessed and highly favored.